Updated: Aug 25
In the pages of her best-selling poignant memoir, 'Through the Cracks,' self-published author Pam Rader invites readers into a world of raw vulnerability and remarkable resilience. With a narrative that traverses the depths of escaping an abusive relationship to confronting the heart-wrenching journey of her son's heroin addiction, Rader's story is a testament to the human spirit's unwavering strength in the face of adversity. As we delve into the pages of 'Through the Cracks,' we are granted an intimate glimpse into a life shaped by struggle, forgiveness, and transformation while discovering the redemptive power of compassion and self-discovery.
I am truly honored to have had the opportunity to engage in a short but truly captivating Q&A session with Pam Rader. Pam has been an inspiration to me. Her story helped me believe that no matter how hard life knocks you down, you can get back up and become a shining example of the boundless potential that lies within each of us. Her journey has reaffirmed my belief that no matter how daunting the obstacles may seem, they can be overcome, leading us to a path of success, leadership, and personal growth beyond our wildest aspirations.
Pam's journey is a testament to her unwavering determination and boundless talents. Not only is she a successful self-published author, but she also excels as a Strategic Intervention Coach, Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, Yoga Guru, and astute businesswoman. As the proprietor of Shift Power Yoga LTD. and CEO of Shift Labs Inc., Pam's dynamic prowess and unyielding spirit radiate brightly, establishing her as an indomitable force to be reckoned with.
Did you find it difficult to share so many intimate and traumatizing details from your life?
Pam: Writing my memoir required me to relive many past events that I would rather not have visited.
When I committed to writing my book, it was important to me that I didn't alter any part of the truth to manage people's perceptions of me. If I was going to write the story, I wanted to tell the truth. There were times when I would write a piece and then need to take a break from writing for a while because going back to certain events stirred up unresolved and often unpleasant memories and emotions that I wanted to integrate and heal. So yes, it was difficult, but I believe if your intention is to help people, then you can't spare the things that cause you embarrassment or discomfort. Someone may be living that life right now, and they need to know that I've been there and that I've also found a way out and created a beautiful life.
What was the hardest thing to overcome when sharing your secrets?
Pam: By far, the most challenging thing I had to overcome when sharing my secrets was the fear of what my family and children would think when they read the book. Once I allowed them to read it, publishing the book for the world seemed like small potatoes!
How has sharing your story further healed you?
Pam: This is a great question because I would have told you that I had healed from all of my past traumas before I wrote the book. What I realized through writing my story was that I was only able to heal the parts that I was ready to face and the pieces that I understood at the time. Looking back, as I went through the writing process, I had so much more compassion and empathy for everyone involved and was able to let go, forgive, and, most of all, see myself as a person worthy of forgiveness.
How has sharing your story helped others?
Pam: I have had hundreds of emails and messages of gratitude from people who have survived similar situations, but mostly from families who are dealing with a loved one in addiction. My story has given people hope that they can find meaning, purpose, and peace in the face of loving an addict. I plan on writing a follow-up book with clear steps on how to do what I was able to do!
Why did you choose self-publishing over traditional publishing?
Pam: Self-publishing gave me complete creative control and allowed me to share my story authentically with the world. Self-publishing was a wonderful experience, and I get to maintain all of the rights to my book both now and in the future. Traditional publishing processes were tedious, and even though I received a couple of publishing offers, they required me to relinquish many of the rights that I enjoy keeping as a self-published author.
You can purchase her book on Amazon at: Through the Cracks: A Raw and Gripping Tale of Abuse, Addiction and Rising Above a Legacy of Shame : Rader, Pam: Amazon.ca: Books